I don’t typically get annoyed at news headlines, as I’m in the news profession and understand how hard it is to come up with something clever and eye-catchy.
But, this headline and story from Project Q Atlanta, a GLBTQ oriented blog based out of Atlanta, caught my attention:
As some background, the baby daddy phrase was introduced to mainstream America with a one-hit wonder song by B Rock & The Biz called “That’s just my baby daddy.” Here’s a link to the music video.
You can watch the video and read the lyrics and you’ll get an idea of how the song was an exaggeration of a relationship between a (black) woman with children, her new boyfriend and baby’s daddy.
The problem I have with Project Q Atlanta using this phrase is two-fold: it perpetuates the racial stereotype that black men are just factory sperm donors who want no active part in raising their children. It plays into the so-called ghetto-fabulous attitude that young black men and women are portrayed to have when it comes to raising a family.
It also reduces Lemon’s future relationship with his partner and his child. I’m sure Lemon and his partner would be more than just a baby daddy to their child.
While I understand Project Q Atlanta was probably just trying to use a clever headline to draw readers to its blog entry, it took the lazy route and used a negative stereotype against black men and women to increase its website’s traffic count. What I find ironic is this blog has been one of the main GLBTQ-friendly outlets to lampoon Atlanta-area Bishop Eddie Long in his scandal involving four young men for his conspicuous double life as a man of God and as a swindling pastor who uses his wealth and power to seduce impressionable youth.
Project Q Atlanta is yet another GLBTQ outlet that continues to show its hypocrisy when it comes to fighting bigotry and stereotypes. While the blog is steadfast in its criticism of Bishop Eddie Long and others for their anti-GLBTQ stance, the blog itself succumbs to using and promoting negative racial stereotypes with its use of the phrase baby daddy. These type of blogs were quick to point the finger at black churches and the black community when the 2008 Proposition 8 ballot question failed in California. Gay, Inc. was quick to co-opt the black struggle for civil rights, but failed to include black GLBTQ folks in their fight for equality. They were quick to draw comparisons between the Civil Rights Movement and their fight for gay marriage, yet refused to pay respect and due diligence to the black straight and GLBTQ folks who made their civil rights movement even plausible today.
GLBTQ outlets like Project Q Atlanta want to have their cake and eat it, too, openly criticizing black folks and the community, while refusing to drop their practice of bigotry, discrimination and stereotyping of people of color, particularly those who are transgender. As a GLBTQ ally, I find this relentless case of double standards troubling, as a certain segment of the GLBTQ population refuses to admit and come to terms with its own bigotry. A movement cannot trample on the backs of one oppressed group in the name of advancing its own cause. Just ask those who were involved in the 20th century feminist movements if their exclusion and erasure of the voices of poor white women, GLBTQ women and women of color produced any tangible results.